Evangelism is icky…or at least that’s what I keep hearing. I’m not convinced.
You may have heard that the Pope was criticized recently for reintroducing the Latin mass, which includes a Good Friday prayer for the conversion of the Jews. This has many Jews upset, and other groups are upset at Benedict’s recent statements that salvation only comes through the Catholic Church.
I’m not really sure why people react this way these days. Part of it is the rise of a Good Thing - tolerance - but I don’t think that is a sufficient explanation for why we’re so offended that other people think they’re right and that we should live as they live.
To some extent, I agree that we should live and let live. I have a Krups, you have a Mr. Coffee. I go to Old Navy, you go to Banana Republic (yeah, you, Aaron). Some differences in personal choice aren’t worth even mentioning, because they don’t matter.
But other issues do matter, and if you have thought about your way of understanding the universe and your role within it, and your relationship (if any) to a higher power (if one exists), I’d think you’d want to tell me about it and at least have a friendly argument. I’d hope you don’t think that something as important as how and why humans and the universe exist, and how we should live, are in the “true for me but not for you” category.
I don’t think we should go on from there to be jerks about these matters and hate or harm each other because of our differences. But how far can we go in saying that I have my religion, and you have yours, and we’re all fine here? These are things in which we really cannot all be right, and depending on which set of beliefs you hold, there may be big consequences to those beliefs (though, of course, it’s a common belief that there are no other-worldly consequences to what you believe).
I’m inclined to ask, then, isn’t it rather imperialistic and judgmental to be offended that other people think you’re unsaved or believe wrongly? Don’t most people in the world think that they are right and others are wrong, and isn’t that an OK thing to believe? Isn’t it a rather novel, elitist view that we’re all OK and shouldn’t worry about what other people believe?
I personally tend not to make assumptions about who’s OK with God and who’s not. God will do what he will. On the other hand, I respect the right of others to think I’m wrong.
When we speak out against any kind of religious judgment of others or claim to exclusivity (e.g. claiming that my tribe is the only one that will be saved, or whatever), we’re introducing another kind of exclusivity - the kind that says no one can be wrong or say someone else is wrong.
Now, I won’t go a step farther and say that it is then justifiable to commit acts of oppression or violence against people who believe differently. Certainly not. But I think the fear of such harm is what’s behind all the shock and distress over being judged as unfaithful by others. Maybe we need to work harder to separate the two.
I would much rather know that someone disagrees with what I believe and still treats me respectfully than I would like to hear that they think I’m fine even though my beliefs are diametrically opposed to theirs. I don’t find it helpful to pretend our massive worldview differences don’t exist. Unless we’ve lost them, they’re the perpetual, proverbial elephant in the room.
But I think we can live with the elephant. I think we can live and work together, comfortable in the knowledge that we believe different things. I think we can even want others to come around to our perspective, whether we’re talking politics, religion, or sports franchises.
At stake is nothing less than the survival of discourse itself. Humanity has been immeasurably enriched by our natural tendency to discuss our ideas, to debate, to disagree and argue and consider each other’s positions. We had a lot to learn about being nicer to one another, but I don’t think the rise of civility must be accompanied by a decline in discourse. The opposite should be true - as we become more able to treat each other respectfully, we should have more discourse and care even more about our beliefs.
This all comes to a head when we consider evangelism. It’s almost a dirty word, because it implies - gasp! - that we want other people to believe and live as we do. There is, I must admit, a certain amount of hubris and hypocrisy inherent in the evangelistic drive. If you want to convince others to believe as you do, you must believe that you’re at least mostly right and that your way of life is at least somewhat superior to the alternatives, even if you don’t live in complete congruence with your beliefs.
Perhaps what we’re talking about is a quest for truth, or enlightenment, or wisdom, or peace, or whatever you’d like to call it. Here’s what it will take for the evangelistic drive to thrive in a world where we’re actually decent to one another:
- We cannot use coercion of any type.
- We cannot use evangelism to serve our own interests. By definition, it is undertaken for the benefit of the other.
- We must remain open to learning and changing our own beliefs, if we are to expect this of others.
- We must continually address our own hypocrisy in failing to live by our own standards.
- We must listen as much or more than we expect others to listen to us.
If I’m OK, you’re OK, and evangelism is not OK, we have a problem, because that means no one cares about what they believe. In a world with no healthy discourse, we become so afraid of offending someone that we cease to believe anything or discuss our beliefs.
Discuss. Don’t just say that my opinion is fine for me to have if you disagree :).